I have decided that I need to put a light hold on the spending for a few months so that I can get my life organized and my house clean. I have so much STUFF and I need to get rid of it. There are so many things that I have purchased and forgotten about, grown out of (me and my son) or just become bored of and I need to get rid of it.
Several years ago (before baby) I lost a lot of weight and decided I would NEVER wear specific sizes again, so I got rid of everything. Sold all of it. Now I find that I have more stuff. What in the world happened? Where did it all come from? I thought I got rid of all my clothes??!
Now that I have decided to stop spending and just tighten the reigns for a few months, of course I want to buy everything. But since I am not buying—let’s just window shop.
Catalog I got in the mail Anthropologie.

Since I am not a size 2, here is my online wish list for all of you to peruse. Perhaps you can buy a few of these and share with me. Or when you are done with them, hand them off to me. I will love them for you.


So to all of you who read, thank you. To all of you who don’t know me…here is a tidbit.
I am a mommy.
Well there is so much more than that, but for right now, I want to talk about that since it just took me almost 2 hours to get my son down for his nap. Usually, he goes down EASY–and today was not one of those days.
Needless to say my stress level is high. Who in the world can stand to hear their kid screaming in the other room? Now he didn’t scream for two hours, and really he was probably enjoying himself, since at some point I have to just leave his room and let him fall asleep. I hear him playing, chatting, singing, jumping, you name it. Finally I got up since it has been quiet now for about 7 minutes and voila, he was asleep. And cute as a bug in a rug, all snuggled up in the corner of his crib with blankets all around him. I had to make sure he was tucked in tight.
So now I can blog.
Sigh of relief.

I have always, always, always been in love with this quote.

It is never too late to be what you might have been.-George Eliot

So when I decided to look up who specifically wrote it, I fell upon a few others she so brilliantly penned.

What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?

There is only one failure in life possible, and that is not to be true to the best one knows.

Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them.

Adventure is not outside man; it is within.

Animals are such agreeable friends – they ask no questions; they pass no criticisms.

Belief consists in accepting the affirmations of the soul; unbelief, in denying them.

Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.

I like not only to be loved, but also to be told I am loved.

Life began with waking up and loving my mother’s face.



Guest blog spot: Fall picks <3

Well,its Thursday, which is no different than any other day of the week, but for all you lucky (and awesome) followers of Thepearmercantile, today is a special day because I (the other Sara, yes we have the same name) will be guest blogging with some of favorite Fall picks.

Lets start off with the basics — I’m almost 25, and not the size I was at 13. That being said, I still want to dress 25 – and is it just me, or is this becoming increasingly difficult? The stuff in stores, how to put it mildly….sucks. Retailers are severely lacking in the “flattering clothes for all sizes” department, and no I don’t want to wear a shapeless dress with kitty cats on it. So, online shopping shall we? There are amazing plus size designers and boutiques out there, but they aren’t ‘down-the-street’ accessible, YET. 😉, if you haven’t been yet, go. Not only does this site carry sizes for ALL  shapes and sizes, from size 6-22, but they have great vintage inspired pieces that are made to fit, flatter, and make you feel good. I’m a lover of all things vintage, especially mid-century pieces for their tailoring, clean lines and amazing colors.

Your fall wardrobe should include, but not be limited to…

A great wool and/or tweed dress — you can pair it with tights and flats, boots, or dress it up with heels – versatile and classy, yes you classy lady. (especially great with a cardi & flats)

A classic, comfy, but functional coat. – Layered with a scarf, jeans and boots, or left open over your new dress 😉

Riding Boots – knee height, no heel or “slight” heel, and buckles. Typically they have a little give/stretch in the back as well for comfort. They go great over leggings, jeans, with a great skirt and tights, and dresses alike.

A super awesome knit shirt for your ‘comfy but still have to get things done’ days – Let’s face it we like to be comfy, and we all have those days where we need to hide how tight the jeans are, and just feel good. Pair this shirt with jeans, boots, or even flats — through on a skinny belt and a scarf and you’re dressed, cinched, and looking good.

Simple sweater – I LOVE sweaters, they are cozy, and classy and don’t have to itch. :) This one has great button detail, takes away from any problem areas, and will stay looking good – the bellowed sleeves with cuffs at the wrist will create a slimmer arm too – mmm yum.

My Picks,

Okay, so with that said, Fall is the best time to feel cute, curvy and classy.

Make sure you find yourself a great pair of jeans (remember, wide-leg flares are BACK, score! They are flattering, and look great with heels or flats) Stock up on leggings, colorful tights, and a great day scarf. Belts, and even a great hat are must haves — especially for dressing up a tshirt last minute.

I’m getting a UK circa 1976 vibe from the Fall collections this year, and I’m loving it.

Go on, feel beautiful. <3








Hmmm….which one should I pick?

So many beautiful jackets, and I have no clue which one to pick. I have a standard black Calvin Klein Wool Coat that I bought from Nordstroms a few years back, but I am always trying to break out of black and add another neutral, or shocking color to my wardrobe. SO many things to pick from and I am having a hard time with this decision. I am leaning towards a tan or beige–somewhat pink tone, but with my son, I feel like the coat will have finger prints and stains after wearing it for 7 minutes. How about a winter white? Oh wait…I am forgetting quickly my dilemna for coat shopping. Must be easy to clean.

Help me pick people.

Vote in the comments section. :)

  1.  Albany Coat
  2. Baby Phat Belted A Line Coat
  3. Calvin Klein Double Collar Belted Wool Coat
  4. Eileen Fisher Cascade Front Wool Cape
  5. Evans Grey Skirted Coat
  6. KUT front the Kloth Double Breasted Cape
  7. Talbots Marmount Thinsulate Lining Coat
  8. Ulla Popken Classic Dress Coat
  9. Wool Coat by Taillissime




It is amazing what type of awful junk you can find on the Internet and even more amazing the empowering things that are surfacing. I recently found this site and have been exploring it daily. I am not a super model, I don’t intend on ever being one (to dream) but it is nice to have a place that is purely about loving who you are as a person in this shell of a body instead of focusing on the outward appearance only.

I have been trying to turn my focus on this over the years and this blog is one small step in doing so. I love trying to help other women feel better about themselves and I am the biggest fan of the makeover. But why is it that we focus so much on making the outside pretty? When really all we need to do is know we are pretty, solidly believe we are pretty and live as today is our last? I might be a little soap boxish here–but really?? why in the world do I and everyone else spend so much time obsessing over the exterior shell? We all have one. We are all different. And we are all beautiful. Period. End of story. So who out there dictates why we are or aren’t beautiful? And why do we follow or believe what other people tell us? Why and when does this start? Why would I NOT feel beautiful?

I don’t understand it. It is the most puzzling thing to me. When do we NOT feel beautiful? I have a son, I tell him constantly how much I love him and how amazing he is. He has no concept of beauty or who is worthy of love over another. So when will he learn this? Will I teach it to him without knowing I am? I don’t want to be that person who teaches him that someone is more beautiful over another, but I am sure that bias seeps down from somewhere–from layers and layers of learned behaviour. I myself follow it constantly. I want to stop. I am trying to stop. I am trying to start with myself. I need to set an example for  my child. I need to set an example for myself.

Enough soap box talk.

The bottom line is this, I want to feel beautiful, honestly, sincerely, deep, intense, amazingly strong knowledge of how beautiful I am. I don’t mean this as the shell of my body. I mean as a person-shell and all.

So how do I do this?

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